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David Thornton's avatar

My wife’s mom passed away earlier this year due to Alzheimer’s. It is definitely a difficult thing to watch

I’m sorry for your loss.

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Chris J. Karr's avatar

Beautiful piece, Steve.

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Kaptnpearl's avatar

no doubt many readers will find comfort in your candor

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Kim's avatar

I am so sorry for your loss. Missing my mom terribly today and everyday. Holding tight to the promise I will see her again one day. My sister-in-law is living thru the pain of a mother with dementia. She says it is her mission field. I wish none of us had to deal with the pain of losing a parent twice.

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Steve Berman's avatar

Thank you for sharing. I will pray for your sister. It is indeed difficult.

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Cameron Sprow's avatar

Steven, what a wonderful post! I haven't had to deal with anyone with Alzheimers, though we think one of my aunts is suffering with dementia of a sort. My mother passed in 2001, after having mental health issues the majority of her adult life. I miss her a great deal, but knowing she is in heaven and in her right mind brings much comfort to me. I hope the same for you, too. Thank you again. Your words got me choked up a bit, but in a good way.

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Curtis Stinespring's avatar

When my mom had to be relocated from assisted living to a nursing home at the county hospital, I visited almost every day. I would pick up her clothes that needed washing and bring them back the next day. She was 93 and did not know me. She just wanted to see her mother and her older sister, both long gone. Her cause of death was also "failure to thrive".

It was terrible to watch her go and wondering if she was aware of what was happening but was unable to express her needs.

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Jennifer's avatar

Beautifully written

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SGman's avatar

My grandmother passed last month at 94, and was struggling with dementia these past few years. Last time we visited her at her assisted living home, she thought I was her nephew and asked about how school/college was going.

I didn't bother to correct her: not much point in doing so as it would have only made her confused or embarrassed.

We're going to my in-laws this morning (MIL is 65) for brunch, and later with my parents (71) to a restaurant with bocce - my mom requested to do something fun for her first Mother's Day without hers.

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